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Masha — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 08:41:36 -0000

Most beautiful poem I have ever read

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Delicate Ardor — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 20:09:00 -0000

Thanks for your bravery and honesty. I appreciate very much so your sharing about accessing help from professionals. I think that the more people share about seeing psychologists and other mental health professionals the less power the stigma, misconceptions and the like can have. But even more powerful I believe is people doing what you have done here, by telling your story you make room for others to feel less isolated and alone with their grief. In my experience with grief I have found that this western world that I'm apparently a part of is far from apt at dealing with a person in mourning. We need more of what you have done here, thanks. PEACE :)

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Michael Fox — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 20:09:04 -0000

Scott, wow, that's an amazing post. I lost my dad to cancer 4 years ago and you've just put all the feelings into words beautifully. Glad to hear it sounds like you're dealing with it all ok, it's a tough experience.

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Alan — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 10:46:11 -0000

Scott,
Depression is a difficult challenge. I'm so glad you took the step to meet Jon. For me it took years to identify and then get help.
Thanks for sharing this, it's a powerful piece.
Alan

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Sarah Peacock — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 01:47:57 -0000

Scott, I just wanted to say thanks so much for sharing your story.

You brought a tear to my eye and my heart goes out to you and your family. You are such a brave sole for sharing your story and I think you will help a lot of people who might not have otherwise felt like they could ask for help. They can. I've sent this link onto one of my best friends who is going through a similar situation. Thank you (along with all you other brave #manweek fellows who posted their amazing stories!) for helping to break down the barriers and stigmas attached to men (and anyone!) asking for help.
xxSarah

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franksting — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 19:34:17 -0000

Scott, WOW! Wonderfully, you make me feel like a follow on #manweek post (despite it no longer being manweek) descrbing my 'expected' feelings in similar circumstances. I'll do that knowing I can never reach the zenith of feelings you have touched in this post. It was a wonderful read, and highly recommended to all!

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Kate Richardson — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 03:34:02 -0000

Scott, that is a really moving and beautiful story. A tale of grief and acceptance.

I lost my mum a few years ago and you just took me back to the raw nature of that emotion.

Thanks for sharing.

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wheelyweb — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 01:16:44 -0000

Thanks for a great post Scott. Inspiring! Well written and touching and a poignant reminder of relishing the moment.

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Tony Hollingsworth — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 00:30:18 -0000

Scott
Just read your post - incredibly moving and well-written. Thanks for sharing. I was so pleased when I finally wrote just a few words on the topic and it inspired another associate of mine to do the same, who otherwise would not have known about this initiative.

Cheers,
Tony

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kristin rohan — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 17:46:05 -0000

Wow! There are so many sides to you, Scott, and all of them are pretty darn neat. I'm sure this was hard for you to write - it was hard to read since I love my mum so much and can't imagine what you experienced.

But I'm glad I did because it was an absolutely touching tribute.

Thanks for sharing and trusting us - my admiration for you grows everytime I'm lucky to know more of you.

Cheers,
kristin

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Karla — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 15:33:46 -0000

BFF - I wasn't going to comment, mainly because I am sitting in the same room as you now, but just wanted to let the internet know how much I love you and how proud I am of you - not just for writing this, but also for how sensitive, kind and expressive you are each day offline.

Your mum's - sexie, Gaby, G - kind, caring and sensitive spirit shines through in what you have written.

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Hannah — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 14:18:09 -0000

Hey Scotty,
Just read this and it is so lovely, beautifully written. what a wonderful tribute to mum. I always miss her and think of her.the house isnt the same without her and none of the lives of those who knew her will ever be either. Glad you found the courage to open up and tell people how you are feeling because the last thing you should do is suffer in silence. Hope you are on the road to recovery dude, and cant wait to see you guys soon. Love to you and K always
H xxxxxxx

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Gavin Heaton — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 07:52:37 -0000

You are writing by the light of the axe, Scott. Thanks for being so honest. This sort of post is what ManWeek is all about. But you are also writing about living the sort of life that men (and women) can and should lead. We just have to be brave enough to do so.

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Trent Collins — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 07:30:48 -0000

Thanks so much for sharing this with all of us Scott. My wife's mother has MS and was diagnosed with it shortly after my wife was born (32 years ago).

Coming on 4 years ago she moved into a nursing home even though she is only a little over 60.

This has been a huge thing for us to live with, but I feel that in a strange way it has actually enriched our lives as we adapt and overcome the illness with her.

Again thanks so much for sharing.

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Teresa Lynn — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 07:07:48 -0000

So well put Scott. Hats off to you for writing that. I'm nowhere near that stage, but I'm hoping I will eventually... you are inspiring me :)

Be very proud of yourself, you've put your talents to their very best use.
I firmly believe that eventhough loved ones may pass on before us, it doesn't mean they're gone, in fact they're with us whenever we want them to be, all you have to do is think about them and remember great times that make you smile.

T xx

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Mark Pollard — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 06:57:11 -0000

Ah man. I have knots in my stomach. Feeling unraveled, broken... then, like Katie says, 'seeing the fragile stars'. Life is surreal. Thanks for sharing.

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Andrew Blanda — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 06:31:12 -0000

Scott, I hope the above is the start of something in all of us who read it. It's a great post as it covers a number of things we need to be aware of, especially about what it means to be a man in today's world.

Keep the discussion happening and I wish you all the strength you need to come out of this a stronger person.

Regards,
Andrew

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Katie Harris — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 05:47:31 -0000

Scott, Simon read this post and, very moved by it, he suggested I read it.

It's a beautiful and deeply touching story. Your Mum sounds like she was a truly wonderful woman.

Thank you for writing it and for sharing.

xxxx

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Tim Beveridge — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:37:26 -0000

Beautiful post mate. Eloquent, insightful, and heart-wrenching. Your mum would be proud.

Thanks,

Tim

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Venessa Hunt — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:31:24 -0000

Thank you Scott for sharing this... your honesty humbles me.

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Alex Manchester — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:31:08 -0000

An amazingly heartfelt and thought-provoking read, Scott. And I'm just so glad that you were able to get back home in time, that you have the support and friends in place to help you through an incredibly hard time.

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Mitch Malone — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:53:02 -0000

There is such truth and honesty in your writing that is inspiring and I applaud you for your strength in just writing this. Thank you Scott.

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Andy Miller — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:30:05 -0000

Really moved by your post Scott. Thanks so much for sharing such personal thoughts and lessons. One of the things that amazes me about you is that you have the incredible talent (and generosity) of communicating things you learn humbly and in ways that make (often complex) thoughts and issues feel far less overwhelming. Thank you.

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Katie Chatfield — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:25:28 -0000

Thanks you so much Scott. For three hour coffee chats. For being so brave and so honest. For being you- the son your mother made.

All I know about the dark, about the blackest night, is that it helps you see the fragile stars, the wavering ones, the ones outshone by bright near shouty suns. They need the dark to appear- but you can set your compass by them.

Thank you for helping me navigate around the rocks.

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christy mccarthy — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:23:19 -0000

i just cried. it's rare and lovely when people write so personally. thanks Scott.